Written whilst being broke but happy.
If there’s any time to be selfish, then it’s definitely in your 20s.
This post is for all of you out there who are in the same phase in life as me: 20-something, single/dating/in a relationship, no kids, employed, no real obligations to anything or anyone besides these bills and the rent.
We’re still young and have years of life in front of us to accomplish our hopes and dreams, yet old enough to be able to see the world on our own and focus primarily on ourselves.
Normally, the stigma of selfishness is to solely think of yourself above others; that’s not always the case. This kind of selfishness is where you take time to attend to yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. You can’t give to the world if there’s nothing to pour from! Pouring into yourself can include self-care activities, travel, writing/reading, or anything else that you love to do just for you.
While you’re doing the things you love, here are a few ways you can truly get the most out of your 20’s!
1. Travel often and much
I talk about travel so much, y’all are probably sick of it! I am a huge advocate for traveling as often and as much as you can while you are still young and can enjoy it to the fullest. Even small road trips are worth it; trust me!
2. Get out of the house!
When you’re old and gray, you will have plenty of time to sit at home and watch your favorite shows. You’re still young, so go ahead and make plans to see your friends on the weekends, go to a concert, or do anything out and about in your city. 9 times out of 10 you won’t regret it!
3. Step outside of your comfort zone
I absolutely love the saying, “I’ll try anything once.” This can be applied to a number of things in life: food, activities, adventures, places, etc. Don’t be so set on being in your box and within your comfort zone. Trying new things is essential to growing as a person and I highly encourage it.
4. Enjoy your friends
Your friends will always be there, but everyone’s circumstances change as time goes on. Health declines, people get married and start their families, and priorities become much more different the older we get. Make sure you spend the time you have now with the friends you hold the closest to you. Staying up late on a Saturday night to have wine and ‘girl talk’ won’t kill you every once in a while. Cherish these moments while you can.
5. Don’t waste your time
Time is always precious, no matter what age group you find yourself in. Time is the one thing you can spend but will never get back. Dead end relationships, fruitless friendships, and doing something day-to-day that you actually hate need to be cut off as soon as possible. I’m sure we all have moments we look back on and think, “Why did I let that go on for so long?” If it’s not making you happy, let it go now and don’t waste any more of your time.
6. Read personal development books NOW
Self-help and personal development books may seem corny to some, but they are extremely useful and hold valuable information. Spend some free time to dive into some of these books and see what positive changes you can make in your life. The earlier you start, the better!
7. Cook every and anything
Cooking is for EVERYBODY. It saves you money and it’s just an important survival skill to have in general. Experiment in the kitchen and cook things you’ve always wanted to eat. It’ll be useful in the future if you plan on starting a family.
8. Don’t be lazy
Laziness is such an unattractive trait. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for having a lazy day here and there, especially if the weather is crummy outside. However, if it’s a lifestyle quality then it should be changed. Make it a point to be useful of your time and productive. Get things done as soon as possible so that your responsibilities don’t stack up sky high later.
9. Save your money
It’s so crucial to save and to start saving now! Your future self will thank you when you have a hefty amount in your savings for a rainy day or for important purchases. Read more about good financial habits to have here!
10. Never give up on yourself or your goals
Goals take time. Be patient while you’re in your 20s and do the work now so you can benefit from it later in life. Ambition pays off! Go after what you want while you still have that fire in you.
Hopefully these blurbs inspire and motivate you to do more while you still have your youth. Each of these still serve as a reminder to myself of how I can take advantage of the moment. Feel free to let me know how you get the most out of your 20s in the comments below!